It is Wednesday and I want to share my Wedding Wednesday day tip with you! Today I want my brides and grooms to consider a cocktail hour. The cocktail hour has become a very popular trend with many couples on their wedding day. Aside from the fact that they are fun, cocktail hours provide your guests and family a place to sit and chat with each other while sipping a beverage. This can be used for several VALUABLE reasons, and I want to discuss how you can use a cocktail hour to benefit you!
Let me start with the pre-wedding cocktail hour! You may choose to have your cocktail hour before the wedding ceremony. Many couples are opting to have their formal wedding photos taken before the ceremony begins, and a pre-ceremony cocktail hour gives your guests something fun to keep them occupied as they are arriving to your wedding. There are advantages to having your formal wedding and family photos taken before the ceremony. The main advantage is that you and your bridal party will look fresh and neat, without as many wrinkles in your dress as you may afterward. Just remember that if you choose to have a pre-wedding cocktail hour, you are doing this for your guests. The bride should always save her appearance for the ceremony.
If you and your fiance are choosing not to see each other before the ceremony, then maybe a post-ceremony cocktail hour would be better for you. After your ceremony, your guests can enjoy a drink or two and maybe even light hors d’oeuvres during the cocktail hour. This will allow your caterer time to complete the finishing touches on your formal dinner service or buffet line while also giving you and your photographer time to finish up your formal wedding photos. There is nothing more horrible then asking your friends and family who have come to support you on the biggest day of your life, to wait on you while you take pictures. And with a post-ceremony cocktail hour, you may actually get to participate in it with your guests once your photos are finished. So cocktail hours are a great way to keep everyone happy!
Cocktail hours, whether they be before your ceremony or after, should be planned to produce an atmosphere conducive to informal socializing. Remember that you are only wanting to make your guests comfortable while they wait. Keep it simple, yet comfortable. Serving a specific drink, possibly tying in your wedding theme or wedding colors to the drink, will make things fun and memorable for your guests. But keep in mind, while you want your guests to socialize and mingle, you do not want to create a room full of intoxicated people. So save the main drinks for your open bar at your reception!
Want to see what a cocktail party is all about? Check these out these signature drinks that I found over at Martha Stuart Weddings! Click on the photos to take you to the site to learn how to make these fabulous, eye pleasing, tummy yummy drinks for your own cocktail hour!
And for more cocktail hour signature drink ideas… be sure to check out Martha Stuart Weddings SIGNATURE DRINKS.















by Wendy Cunningham
as far as cocktails are concerned, simple is better. a few classic drinks, made well with quality ingredients, will hit the mark every time. the best example of classics, well done is the patterson house- their bartenders are available for hire. my favorite reception idea right now- which can also help you have a happy wedding budget- is to serve champagne + dessert. to get people moving + mingling, place items all around the room- like different small cakes on each table.
Thanks Lindsey! I have personally never experienced the Patterson House, but after doing a quick Google search of them after your comment, I’m pretty sure that I will have to get over there very quickly! I can’t find one single negative review about them. Everyone is singing them praises! Look out Patterson House… I’m coming to check you out!
absolutely! i’m not a big drinker myself, but at tph… it’s a different world. there is a line at the door before they even open at 5pm.
I have planned both, cocktail hours before and after the ceremony. It really depends on your venue. If you are having a church wedding, the cocktail hour before is a no go. But if you are having your wedding at a country club or other similar venue where your guests can gather in an area away from where the ceremony will take place then go for it.
One couple that did just this had a downtown wedding. The venue had a downstairs area where we served a signature drink (mojitos), wine and bite size appetizers. We announced when it was time to make their way upstairs for the ceremony and be seated. After the ceremony the guests were lead into the reception area where a full bar was available and the DJ played background music until the bride and groom were announced. Then the food stations were opened and the party began.
Most of the time the cocktail hour is after the ceremony and I have done it several different ways. One of my favorites was a garden reception. After the ceremony the guest were invited to the entrance of the reception site where bistro tables and a bar were set up. We served a signature cocktail (spiked pink lemonade) in mason jars and beer. We also had a food station of various cheeses, crackers and fruit for guests to snack on. When the wedding couple arrived, the guests entered the garden area and then the bride, groom and attendants were introduced. This was a great way to entertain the guests and allowed a grand entrance to the reception that was really fun.
This is a great way to incorporate a couples personality so be creative and have fun!
Awesome! Thanks Kelly! I have a wedding coming up where the couple has chosen mason jars for their drinks at their reception as well. I love it when a couple gets creative and uses simple things to make their wedding and reception stand out!
My daughter’s reception was held at a Nashville historic plantation. With so many relatives from New England & Great Britain, she wanted to show off the South. So, when guests arrived from the church, we had waiters greeting the guests in the gardens holding silver trays with glasses of iced tea & iced water (along with appetizers). After mingling & enjoying the historic grounds, they moved into the reception hall for wine & beer & champange before & with dinner. Looking back on it, I think it was a great decision because the evening was so hot. The English relatives were melting from the humidity so I don’t really think they missed their cocktails!
Personally, I’ve always wanted to have a Art Deco/Roaring Twenties Cocktail Hour! Something that looks straight out of ‘The Great Gatsby’. Some wine & beer maybe but a Martini would be the highlight. Served by waiters with slicked-back hair & wearing tuxedos w/tails. The girls of course would be dancing the Charleston on top of the tables when the Prohibition police arrive to break up the party!!!! LOL! …Of course a Bride doesn’t have to go that far but Martinis (and I mean the original) served on silver trays would be so stylish & cool…don’t ya think?!
Oh Vickie! How FUN! I want to be the photographer at that wedding! I love the twenties era! I always thought I was born in the wrong era! A Roaring Twenties Cocktail Hour! WORD UP!
When having a Cocktail hour be sure to have a signature drink! Maybe the drink should be the same as your wedding color or your favorite drink? Here is a easy recipe for “Blushing Bride” drink:
1 oz. 10 Cane Rum
1 oz. Pama Pomegranate Liqueur
1/2 oz. Fresh squeezed lemon juice
1/2 oz. Mint-infused simple syrup
Directions: Shake all ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice and strain into a chilled martini glass.
Garnish: mint sprig and lemon twist
ENJOY!
Hi Clayton! Thanks! I like anything with Pomegranate! Yummo!